If you’ve ever witnessed the beauty of Northern California rainbows, then you know of their magnificence. Large arches of vibrant color that stretch from one corner of the earth to the next. Rainbows are the sun’s reflection off the mist of a rainfall. And,the more turbulent the storm, the more brilliantly the rainbow seems to emerge.
The same could be said about life. Life’s stormy moments can create beauty for us, just as rainy weather may result in a rainbow. Life can be turbulent, we would all agree. Sometimes our stormy weather can impact us so negatively that we close ourselves off.
- We shut down
- isolate ourselves
- push others away
Yet, it is in our shaky moments that we NEED others. When it’s “raining”, connection with others is so important.
I understand from my own experience the allure of pushing people away when things aren’t going well. During these times, its easy to embrace the beliefs that all is lost, and nobody cares, or could help anyway. What I’ve come to learn is that even though it may be the case that others can not SAVE us or make us feel a certain way, what they can do is remind us of who we are… what we stand for… and what we are capable of.
What the important people in my life do for me, the ones that I whole heartedly trust and respect, is help me to find the rainbow. They remind me that I am not alone and they help me embrace that True Self within me that *knows* how to find the solutions and resources needed to outlast the storm.
What do you do when things are going poorly?
- Do you close yourself off and tuck yourself away?
- Do you catch yourself pondering negative, limiting beliefs?
- Do you reach out to receive support and see the gift of a lesson unfolding?
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Susan Liddy is the author of the “Body Benevolence eBook; 8 Weeks to Loving Your Body” and “The Secrets to Ultimate Living; What You Wish You Knew When You Were 20!”. Find more of her tips and articles to create an ultimate life and an extraordinary business here: SusanLiddy.com
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When stormy weather hits I talk to my hubby or daughters and they just listen. I also have a close girl friend that I have had for years and is a good listener. She is also good at putting humor in things when needed.
I have found that when you have someone to listen you can see things more cleary and find the rainbow.
Debbie
When stormy weather hits, I do all three things Susan has mentioned:
Close myself off and tuck myself away, negative/limiting beliefs, and reach out for support. For me, it’s identifying the problem and not letting it get to me. I do lean on a support group of my friends to get through situations. Sometimes I find out I’m not alone, but often I find that everyone is sending positive thoughts my way. I also find an outlet I can rely on to help relieve the stress. Eventually, things turn around when I don’t even realize it.
Thanks for this, Susan! I definitely have a tendency to wall myself off. Particularly as a coach, it’s sometimes hard to even admit, “hey, I need a little pep talk myself”. But I have to say that the thing that seems to always help me to get back on track is connecting with nature. I can simply stand outside and stare at a beautiful, majestic tree and know that it’s all okay.
Thanks for sending this out. I really needed it today.
Guys have a way of making women feel like dog poo.
Picking myself up once again….
So thankful for friends.
Good Morning…When I am in the middle of a storm, I don’t shut down, but I definitely roll right into Limited Belief Thinking. I start to think of the What If’s and then that turns into worry, which then turns into fear. What helps me get through that, is to stop, and immediately start complimenting myself, pointing out all of the good things about me. Sounds silly, but it helps me to remember that I am okay, that I am loveable, and that I will get through whatever is happening.
This is a really good post, Susan! What I’ve found myself doing lately, when I go into all three modes you listed above, is to ask my 7-year-old self how she would respond. Rarely, if ever, do I recall that girl sweating the small stuff, about anything! I also read this somewhere, and it makes so much sense. “When you feel yourself getting ready to panic or over-react about something…hit your pause button and schedule it for 24-hours later. You’re bound to handle it much better and more than likely it was more of a molehill than the mountain you thought it was.”
I also make it a point to remind myself when my thoughts get carried away, to re-focus on the moment I’m in, and not the future since it’s not here yet.