Comments on: How to Resolve your Relationship Conflicts through Communication

By: thatgirlisfunny.com

thatgirlisfunny.com — Sun, 02 May 2010 04:04:17 +0000

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By: Do You Forgive and Forget? | Secrets to Ultimate Living! Blog

Do You Forgive and Forget? | Secrets to Ultimate Living! Blog — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 05:47:21 +0000

[...] it over with them with an Honor Talk™. Have an open mind. Express things from the “I feel” perspective rather than taking [...]

By: Life Coach Susan

Life Coach Susan — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:33:21 +0000

Thank you, Warren!

By: Warren Baldwin

Warren Baldwin — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:22:29 +0000

Great suggestions … hard to implement! Following these suggestions will save relationships. Good post.

By: Life Coach Susan

Life Coach Susan — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:33:37 +0000

The “Ping Pong” effect…
What a great way to describe that behavior.
Stems from feeling defensive or insecure…
A surefire sign that a “Little Me” is triggered.

Compassion is KEY.

Excellent comment.
Thank you, Robin.

By: Robin aka Empowerment Diva

Robin aka Empowerment Diva — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 03:44:01 +0000

I love it! Your honor talk concept is very interesting. It is truly about honoring others values, space, etc. Speak compassionately aka paraphrasing or empathizing with the other individual. This article truly gives essential keys to empowering our relationships.

Another concept I’ve heard about is the “ping pong” effect. This is where individuals instead of keeping the ball on the table are anxiously waiting for their opportunity to slam!! If we would stay in the game long enough and look at it as a “win-win” situation we may have more success in our communication efforts.

Thanks

Robin

By: Life Coach Susan

Life Coach Susan — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:34:23 +0000

Adalia,

I agree. We are often quick to jump to conclusions about what others are thinking and what is driving their behavior. I think that for the most part, we all have good intentions even though sometimes we don’t carry out that good intention in an empowering way.

Thanks so much for your comment.
Looking forward to having you back for a visit here soon.

Susan

By: Adalia John

Adalia John — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 03:52:59 +0000

If we sought clarification for some one’s intention before drawing a conclusion – a conclusion that can wreak havoc – we will find, more often than not, that the intention was not to be hurtful or mean spirited. Great communication tips.

By: Life Coach Susan

Life Coach Susan — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 23:36:04 +0000

Dianne~ Love your questions…

Is it True?
It is Kind?
Is it necessary?

Excellent questions to ask oneself before choosing to speak.
As always, thank you for your thoughtful comment.

-Susan

By: Dianne DelReyes

Dianne DelReyes — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 23:34:07 +0000

Susan,

I love the process of this style of communication you call Honor Talks. It really sets up your ability to be heard and to listen. It also creates a space for mutual respect. I also appreciate you mentioning to take responsibility… How much of my reaction is really my own stuff?

I love the part where you recommend processing your thoughts, feelings and reactions to find clarity before you engage in the conversation.

I often consider these filters, Is it true? Is it kind? and Is it necessary.. and even does it improve upon silence?

I often think about what Don Miguel Ruiz says, “Be impeccable with your word” I find that a powerful statement and one I often think of.

Thanks Susan

Warmly,
Dianne